Lately I’ve been consumed with work-at-home-mom guilt. I’m usually pretty good about taking time off in the evenings and on weekends, but an unexpected rush of clients this week and other projects have left me holed up in front of my laptop much more than usual. As a result, work-at-home mother guilt is weighing on me.
Having grown up as an only child, I appreciate the fact that my “stair step” children enjoy playing together (most of the time) and can happily keep one another entertained. When I was young, I had to learn how to keep myself entertained most of the time while my parents were busy. I’m pushing hard to complete these projects, and am thankful that my husband happily picks up the slack and gets the kids out of the house on weekends on fun outing. Still, part of the reason I work at home is so that I can spend more quality time with my family. I kind of feel like a hypocrite. Even though these longer hours are only short-term, my work-at-home-mom guilt is relentless.
When I start feeling this way, it’s a clue that I need to step back and re-evaluate. Do I just need more help from my husband? Can I rearrange some deadlines so I don’t have to spend so much time each day working? Am I minding my priorities – Allah first and then family? This mental check list usually provides quick relief, or spurs me along to make immediate corrective changes.
If you’re a work-at-home-mom, do you ever feel guilt? How to you manage it?
Salam sister, although I don’t work from home, I really need help to schedule time with my children I have 2 MA, 7 and 4. I work 4 days as a high school teacher, I find I am working most waking hours God sent and am too tired even on my day off and @ w’end when I just want to rest. My husband and I usually swap ‘shifts’ he’s off when I get home. He’s very hands on MA. But I can’t seem to appreciate his contribution and find myself blaming him for having to work and leave my kids. Time management needs lots of work. How do you advise I start? What would a good timetable look like if i come home by 5-530 each day with still more to do?
Much appreciated and looking forward to your advise.
Tahera.
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